I knew i'd had a bitch in here about the Maternal, Child and Health Service in here before, so it was interesting to go back to that post and read and compare.
So they pop around a week after you get home from hospy, just to make sure you're not smothering or abusing your child, or living in squalor, i'm sure. It's free, they come to you, and I was like "sure, why not, come over"
And spent the rest of the 'meeting' smiling at her tightly and answering her questions with 'good' and 'fine'.
I mean, I left the hospital thoroughly happy to not have to endure any more questions about any of my bits and their various stages of healing. I'm not usually one to happily chat to strangers about intimate details of my anatomy.
I accepted her brochures on controlled crying, clinics and I dunno, a million other things that didn't interest me the first time.
I wondered why I invited her.
We breed 'em mean over hear I think.
I met a lovely Maternal Child and Health Nurse in hospy that does the Ballarat ( country Victoria ) beat and she was so lovely.
We seem to get the cold, pinched variety of nurse in my area.
So anyway, she arrives, we greet her at the door and my son proudly tells her about the new baby and how it came from mummy's tummy and something, something else. I ask him to show her to the lounge.
He does this in his usual animated, sociable, engaging way.
People skills I don't really possess, God Bless Him ...
So, I go to get the baby.
"Does your son have a hearing problem?"
Me "wha, huh ?"
" I noticed it as soon as I walked in. He doesn't close his words properly. I was wondering if he had a hearing problem ?"
She chats about my body, all the formal stuff - how was your pregnancy, birth etc.
"So he doesn't have grommits ?"
"Have you seen a Speechie to check him out ?"
Me: "Yes. The last maternal health nurse scared the bejesus out of me and made me take him at 18months. The Speech Pathologist wondered why we were there ?"
"Perhaps you should get him checked out again"
By this stage, i'm thinking 'are you going to freaking check out the BABY, or harp on about my son ?', but I continue to smile tightly and suffer her interogation.
She deviates again back to my stats briefly before:
"I'm surprised the kinder hasn't called you in for a meeting about it"
I say "well, he's only been 4 times - i'm sure it's a bit too early for them to be calling conferences with me. All they've told me so far is what a delight he is ..."
"It's just that I see a lot of 3.5yr olds and..." (trails off)
So she weighed my baby and left...
..left me to call and email other mothers to ask if I had my head in the sand and my 'mummy-ears' on in regards to my son's speech ? I mean, of course there are better speakers out there in his age group, even in my Mother's Group, but he certainly seems to be to be on par with others.
Perhaps he attracted her attention because he talks so much - he loves to chat, to show people around the house, to show off his baby, his bedroom etc
I know a few other boys that speak well, but they never say anything, rarely speak.
Which is better ? Is either even comparable ?
I don't think so.
So now I feel obliged to follow-up - again.
I've booked in for his 3.5yr old assessment in a couple of weeks time, and that is with another nurse, so i'll see what she says and do the right thing by him, for sure.
But still, I wonder if they EVER say to ANYONE:
"Gee, you're doing a great job!" ??!?!?
My g/f thinks they just have a black book of sins they like to add people's names against.
Keeping mothers in fear keeps them employed.
BTW - behind in blog-reading, answering emails, you name it ... the newborn's eating habits are keeping me chained to the couch at the moment.... i'll get there ... ;)