tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21988256.post6180473998263546363..comments2023-05-15T19:52:28.454+10:00Comments on h&b: Not a Fan of FourLBAhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05433555112198668513noreply@blogger.comBlogger29125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21988256.post-53714136371841095022008-12-25T03:27:00.000+11:002008-12-25T03:27:00.000+11:00That Magic 1-2-3 really worked ovah heah (and it d...That Magic 1-2-3 really worked ovah heah (and it did with Poppy's kids, too).<BR/><BR/>My wife found it and applied it assiduously.<BR/><BR/>Which is a good thing, because my natural impulse was to go with something <A HREF="http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=BbgyppGqBgg" REL="nofollow">like this</A>.Jokehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05672407657347134623noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21988256.post-21206411597132743712008-12-24T21:04:00.000+11:002008-12-24T21:04:00.000+11:00My sister used Magic 123 and swears by it, her kid...My sister used Magic 123 and swears by it, her kid is diabetic and so the mood swings were really huge. Consistency is the real key.<BR/><BR/>The other thing to remember is that it is a stage. It will pass. keep telling yourself that. CxStomper Girlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04038937073264645029noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21988256.post-80490339446062955462008-12-20T13:40:00.000+11:002008-12-20T13:40:00.000+11:00I have twin girls ,4 in Jan. A great friend recomm...I have twin girls ,4 in Jan. A great friend recommended this book ( Magic 123 )There is also a video. I have yet to try it. But as it comes highly recommended I thought I would share. <BR/>Hugs CorrineAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21988256.post-53664033149387233742008-12-18T18:00:00.000+11:002008-12-18T18:00:00.000+11:00Looks like everyone beat me to it! Some really gre...Looks like everyone beat me to it! Some really great advice and support in these replies. All I'll say is "I hear ya!" and to stay as strong as you can - and maybe avoid outings in the latter half of the day for a while.nutmeghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00338099206534716993noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21988256.post-5517464270230478782008-12-17T08:39:00.000+11:002008-12-17T08:39:00.000+11:00Oh wow - I'm not alone! My Littl P has been is st...Oh wow - I'm not alone! My Littl P has been is still very hard to understand at times. And as you say, she's well liked, great fun to be with, but she turns, like a wrap-around skirt! I think THEY ALL do or can, and anyone who thinks their's doesn't is deluding themselves. <BR/><BR/>The naughty chair really works, now that she understands 5 minutes, the room doesn't work for her, as she just plays in there. If she cries/whines/shouts out on the naughty chair, it's 5 minutes more. Works, sounds trite, but give it a try, and be really firm, don't let him win!Claire (ethel loves fred)https://www.blogger.com/profile/15039120555271381576noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21988256.post-64543798017440927152008-12-15T22:11:00.000+11:002008-12-15T22:11:00.000+11:00In our house that period of time was referred to a...In our house that period of time was referred to as "so ready for school".KPBhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06124224647059797583noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21988256.post-67987483959034873392008-12-15T10:02:00.000+11:002008-12-15T10:02:00.000+11:00A late reply, but when we get the stupid/irrationa...A late reply, but when we get the stupid/irrational/lash-out type stuff at home, it is ignored. I pick up Peanut and walk away (to make sure she is safe from his unintentional carry-on). HE HATES IT and often will stop if I say that once he has stopped crying, we will talk to him again. If it happens in public, or there is the slightest threat of it happening, I abandon everything including half-full shopping trolleys and bodily remove him to the car and home. No amount, cajoling and threats will stop him at that point, so I don't even bother, I just hold him down and strap him into the carseat (have been kicked in the head for my effort and it took a mammoth effort to ignore this one). Again, his tanty is ignored until we get home and then he's told that I will speak to him again when he stops. It is working for me, maybe it could work for you guys? I keep hearing that he will grow out of it, and am almost holding my breath waiting for this to happen... xxAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21988256.post-67305047589100984202008-12-15T09:47:00.000+11:002008-12-15T09:47:00.000+11:00No advice from me, as I don't have any kids, but j...No advice from me, as I don't have any kids, but just wanted to let you know I feel for you, and hope it all sorts itself out soon!Aunty Evilhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18433383999833031264noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21988256.post-28420272668583130952008-12-15T07:50:00.000+11:002008-12-15T07:50:00.000+11:00Hugs to you. I have no advice - there has already ...Hugs to you. I have no advice - there has already been some good advice posted - yet I think you are doing the right things.Michellehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00152241012333999172noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21988256.post-46879988216368559372008-12-14T20:22:00.000+11:002008-12-14T20:22:00.000+11:00The part about hissing like a cat made me laught o...The part about hissing like a cat made me laught out loud. <BR/>My youngest kid turning four in January and he has moved into a deeply defiant / wild mood swing / crazy / annoying stage that is very different from the easy toddler he once was. I find myself longing for next year to start so I can send him off the kinder for 3 days a week - this shocks me because he's always been so easy and I feel like there must be something wrong with me to feel like this. Then I remember how his big brother went through a hidious personality stage at four, and friends kids did too, I'm not sure but I think it's a pretty normal milestone. So... one day he'll be six and sweet and easy again, and so will mine, I'm sure.xxooVictoriahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08537957489838390473noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21988256.post-81249410690968098342008-12-14T14:37:00.000+11:002008-12-14T14:37:00.000+11:00I have teenagers but do remember the horror that c...I have teenagers but do remember the horror that can be life with pre-schoolers. I think you sound like a lovely concerned and caring Mum but can I offer you a few ideas that got me through those years?<BR/>1. He is beating up and you and his Dad because he loves you best in the world and knows you will love and forgive him no matter what - but that doesn't mean you have to put up with his behaviour. <BR/>2. Taking kids to shopping centres is not a fun family outing for anyone, especially the kids. Go on your own, once Dad is home.<BR/>3.Distraction, distraction, distraction worked for me. If the park visit is nearly over, give the 5 minute warning, but let him know the "fun" doesn't end with the park visit. eg., when we get home I'm going to draw you a picture of a monkey (or whatever): only takes two minutes once you get home but gets him out of the public eye<BR/>and into the car.<BR/>4. My older kid said once, only half joking, that the day his brother was born was the worst day of her life. Went from having my total attention to competing with a very angelic baby. He's biting and scratching you because he know it would hurt the baby. <BR/>Sibling jealousy is just life and normal, he's just expressing it in a different way.<BR/>5. I work in a job where I see people mis-timing outings with kids on a daily basis - really lovely little children (like your son)<BR/>turning into banshees because they are hungry or tired or over the day and just want to be home on the couch - not following around adults on their pursuits.<BR/>He sounds absoulutely normal to me, but is expressing his frustration with life at times in a particularly eye catching and public way. This time of year is an endurance test for adults, kids too. All the best of luck to you.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21988256.post-84624273247646711462008-12-14T13:28:00.000+11:002008-12-14T13:28:00.000+11:00Our 9 year old used to have what can only be descr...Our 9 year old used to have what can only be described as "turns". He couldn't be distracted, snapped out, restrained or reasoned with. The turns were usually had at home (fortunately). He was not appreciated in the extended family.<BR/><BR/>He's still got a pretty fierce break...but it takes a LOT to push him to that point now.<BR/><BR/>You can do it...is good we have the program at our school.Kirstyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05628893711657037244noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21988256.post-399333931374926222008-12-14T08:26:00.000+11:002008-12-14T08:26:00.000+11:00Sounds like Tracey has the answer.Anon's comme...Sounds like Tracey has the answer.<BR/>Anon's comment struck a chord with me. When SG gets enraged, I tell him he has a 'cabbage face'. The first time I used it, he was so surprised he laughed. Now it is a catchphrase that begins a game of vegetable name calling, - &, best of all, laughter.<BR/>Sibling's arrival triggers all sorts of unexpected behaviour.meggiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00061112627819270427noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21988256.post-55959140304438145082008-12-14T00:17:00.000+11:002008-12-14T00:17:00.000+11:00Can you make up a special phrase or saying that yo...Can you make up a special phrase or saying that you can use (very rarely) in those moments when he is struggling to come out of his rage? I had a friend who one day when struggling with a toddler in a similar predicament started to tap dance and sing "la cocha racha" in front of the raging child. Said child was so shocked she stopped and snapped out of it. <BR/><BR/>From then on it was their secret special message that she used in desperate situations and no matter how hard the child tried to ignore they'd always crack a smile.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21988256.post-30578771570173012242008-12-13T23:09:00.000+11:002008-12-13T23:09:00.000+11:00No, you can't have Jekyl/Hyde because that's my Mo...No, you can't have Jekyl/Hyde because that's my Monet. Outburst central at our joint every couple of days - especially when we were staying in Victoria. Oh. My. God. I had never witnessed it so much, this Jekyl/Hyde thing. When we left your place and after we had been to Chaddy, driving home with the two Grandmother's in the car, well Monet had one of her better 'moments'. I literally had to pull over on the Freeway and get out of the car - oh it was horrific and I am sure both Grandmothers were like, 'What the?' Oh and it got worse, let me tell you... <BR/><BR/>I just think to myself "shit, I hope she's not like this forever". *smirk* I am hoping it is a 4 year old phase...Melodyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05681227038111050561noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21988256.post-72579291600489806132008-12-13T22:36:00.000+11:002008-12-13T22:36:00.000+11:00Whew. I don't have any advice except to say keep b...Whew. I don't have any advice except to say keep being strong and firm with him and let him know it.is.not.on.<BR/><BR/>I think you clinched it when you wrote "right after the youngest was born, when these fits began ..." It's a reaction to him not being the centre of your world any more.<BR/><BR/>Lots of love and reassurance, but clear messages that we do not hurt other people. <BR/><BR/>hugs to you,<BR/>xSusehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14837796439737091649noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21988256.post-26585799771395245592008-12-13T22:00:00.000+11:002008-12-13T22:00:00.000+11:00Wow lovely. Hugs from us... what a doosie.You know...Wow lovely. Hugs from us... what a doosie.<BR/><BR/>You know I think this is just like everything else, there is no magic answer... this parenting thing is hard work, and a lot of the time you just have to try stuff out and make it up as you go along. But you know this already... I'm the newbie who's just starting to work this out!<BR/><BR/>You love him to bits, you let him know you love him to bits, you are trying to help him out with this stuff, and you can have a giggle or a vent about things when you need to. Sounds to me like you are doing beautifully.<BR/><BR/>xosummer pickleshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06420851297641865406noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21988256.post-56732547755569305242008-12-13T20:45:00.000+11:002008-12-13T20:45:00.000+11:00My 10 yo still does this, in a 10 yo way. But onl...My 10 yo still does this, in a 10 yo way. But only to me. To everyone else she's an angel. Principal says "she's head girl material". Bleh. Come and sit at our dinner table then.<BR/><BR/>This is the girl, who at four, wrote on my Christmas bookmark "I love my mummy when...she doesn't lock me in the laundry". ouch. <BR/><BR/>Go with the flow, he loves you as Blossom loves me. He sounds like an independent intelligent boy who is finding his place in the family pecking order. And that's a tough thing for any puppy.Mhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00831936165024410678noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21988256.post-905498754093487162008-12-13T15:11:00.000+11:002008-12-13T15:11:00.000+11:00for what it is worth.I also think you are doing al...for what it is worth.<BR/>I also think you are doing all ther right things.<BR/>I agree with what previous people have said.<BR/>I hope it is just a phase♥.Trish.♥ Drumboyshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13482654455512269065noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21988256.post-81253572396619934612008-12-13T14:45:00.000+11:002008-12-13T14:45:00.000+11:00Gee, I'd love to be able to give some advice, but ...Gee, I'd love to be able to give some advice, but I'm hardly an expert.<BR/>To me, it sounds like you're doing everything right.<BR/>All I can say is keep doing as you are, and it too will pass.<BR/>If you figure it out, can you let me know? We have one here known as Mr A.P. (Angry Pants), aka when out of hearshot as Mr. TLF (Testy Little F*cker)Staceyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00090958027924599852noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21988256.post-24460758342139215252008-12-13T13:00:00.000+11:002008-12-13T13:00:00.000+11:00PS: Like you, we have a nightowl and I have realis...PS: Like you, we have a nightowl and I have realised that when people experience that "witching hour" around 5pm we have it a little bit later. Could that be it? I've avoided taking her outside of her domain now, for that reason.Kikihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04967567814512326496noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21988256.post-5440802870604816812008-12-13T12:58:00.000+11:002008-12-13T12:58:00.000+11:00I really appreciate this article/author on setting...I really appreciate this article/author on setting boundaries. Have a read and let it relate to you and AB's situation. Keep blogging about it, if anything your feelings are out of your head...for a little while anyhow.<BR/>http://www.sote.qld.edu.au/articles/HowToSayNo1.htmlKikihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04967567814512326496noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21988256.post-64455437920589156282008-12-13T12:45:00.000+11:002008-12-13T12:45:00.000+11:00oh man. I thought we had it tough. We have massive...oh man. I thought we had it tough. We have massive tantrums sometimes requiring physical restraint and I have been known to put Grace over my shoulder and carry her out of the shop/supermarket. Now we have a no shouting rule (it was getting out of control and the house was becoming very shouty) and I frequently use consequences, ie no advent chocolate after dinner over bad behaviour at dinner or leading up to it. No story if there are issues at toothbrushing or bedtime. After having carried out my threats a couple of times, it seems to work. Moreorless. <BR/><BR/>Both Grace and your boy have been through big changes recently and I think it's the sort of thing we just have to get through. Although I'm going to google "you can do it" too. <BR/><BR/>Deep breaths.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21988256.post-15652379101902758122008-12-13T12:35:00.000+11:002008-12-13T12:35:00.000+11:00oh no...some challenging times for you too. We hav...oh no...some challenging times for you too. We have been experiencing plenty of two year old tantrums recently. I try to remind myslef that it won't last forever.<BR/>Our five year old (we used to call her wolf girl because of her wild behaviour) is often embaressed by her little sisters antics in public, yet she refuses to believe that she used to be just like that.Bird Bathhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03918396655766734244noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21988256.post-83163641392611404042008-12-13T12:00:00.000+11:002008-12-13T12:00:00.000+11:00I think you've stated it well, Tracey, and I will ...I think you've stated it well, Tracey, and I will google that now ( thanks )<BR/><BR/>And go figure - we went to see Santa this morning at the kinder, and MC was a swan amongst seagulls - made me feel bad fro writing all this. He was also the only one who gave Santa a big hug (<I> they make you smile! </I>) when Santa said he had to leave.<BR/><BR/>It's Jekyl/Hyde.LBAhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05433555112198668513noreply@blogger.com