tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21988256.post133915350148737472..comments2023-05-15T19:52:28.454+10:00Comments on h&b: OMG: Freak Out !LBAhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05433555112198668513noreply@blogger.comBlogger26125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21988256.post-82467686194829083462008-07-16T16:17:00.000+10:002008-07-16T16:17:00.000+10:00Hi H&B just had to drop in on this post - and your...Hi H&B just had to drop in on this post - and your blog! (Looks like you have great plans for your bathroom - can I steal them - I am oh so lazy....)<BR/><BR/>Anyway, back to the topic of this post. Please read this book:<BR/><BR/>"Under Pressure" by Carl Honore. It's about the cult of hyper-parenting (which usually includes types like this mum you've described here).<BR/><BR/>Read it and jump for joy KNOWING that this type of parenting is NOT good for kids! Kids need LOTS of free play time - unstructured, at home or park - not a gazillion scheduled violin lessons, flash cards and gifted learner classes etc etc.<BR/><BR/>YOU ARE DOING THE RIGHT THING and so am I - add knowing smile here ;-) ha hanutmeghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00338099206534716993noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21988256.post-1781665379761844632008-07-08T11:35:00.000+10:002008-07-08T11:35:00.000+10:00he, he, he...maybe, MC: first child in space!?or, ...he, he, he...<BR/><BR/>maybe, MC: first child in space!?<BR/><BR/>or, you could invite her to his first photo exhibition!!!<BR/><BR/>ps I'm with you on the ew factor re mum seeing your 'grown up bits'Christiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07935564388507544207noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21988256.post-63486206192600883132008-07-06T19:33:00.000+10:002008-07-06T19:33:00.000+10:00there is always one isn't there!! I am sure she mu...there is always one isn't there!! I am sure she must feel inadequate if she left the group in the first place.Michellehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00152241012333999172noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21988256.post-51891441958008638332008-07-05T02:32:00.000+10:002008-07-05T02:32:00.000+10:00We call them the 'mung bean and sandals' brigade. ...We call them the 'mung bean and sandals' brigade. It is a mindset rather than an actual partiality to mung beans ;-)<BR/><BR/>All you have to ask yourself is 'Is my child happy?' and if the answer comes back - 'Usually.' then you are on the right track. I go down the line of 'good enough parenting' and figure that anything else is too much to ask and anyway.... someone has to keep therapists in new BMWs!<BR/><BR/>However..... (don't cringe, it isn't bad) my mother was at the birth of both my children and I would have been lost without her. She was someone who I knew I could trust and follow. But that was just me, also she is a practising midwife.trashhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13623440501234583451noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21988256.post-4228713172919104532008-07-02T09:43:00.000+10:002008-07-02T09:43:00.000+10:00I left my mums group cause all of THEM were like H...I left my mums group cause all of THEM were like HER. I remember bringing out a Kraft cheese stick and getting gasps and 'your not going to feed her that!!!' <BR/><BR/>Fast forward 20 years... I see therapy sessions with issues over mum never letting her eat the fairy bread and making her practice the violin for hours despite being allergic to the horse hair in the bow.<BR/><BR/>Crikey, people like that make me feel inadequate too.phoeberaehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13605753957848095795noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21988256.post-57777138111972533462008-07-01T21:28:00.000+10:002008-07-01T21:28:00.000+10:00thanks guys ;)thanks guys ;)LBAhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05433555112198668513noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21988256.post-62724265319195843682008-07-01T14:26:00.000+10:002008-07-01T14:26:00.000+10:00I can't really add anything to the brilliant comme...I can't really add anything to the brilliant comments already here. But yes, those overachievers get to me too.Damselflyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00139191935886860839noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21988256.post-77783621852530151652008-07-01T09:23:00.000+10:002008-07-01T09:23:00.000+10:00she would die of heart failure if she came to my h...she would die of heart failure if she came to my house.Baked beans for the kids once a week.Happy meal - we luurrvveee and as for the tv - well I think we keep foxtel afloat.I have two words for her - bugger offjoannehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10392895010915362055noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21988256.post-10290585405582507322008-06-30T20:03:00.000+10:002008-06-30T20:03:00.000+10:00There's always one, isn't there? Just like the idi...There's always one, isn't there? Just like the idiot with shorts on in the middle of winter. Feeding their kids mixed grill at 3 months and teaching them bloody sign language so they can 'communicate'. OH PURRRRRLLLEASE. Bring on the happy, baked beans eating, no stress-enduring babies thanks.albyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00771830405134059871noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21988256.post-3724791561983804962008-06-30T19:07:00.000+10:002008-06-30T19:07:00.000+10:00I bet I can guess which kid grows up to be happy, ...I bet I can guess which kid grows up to be happy, balanced and still loves his mum!Ms Brown Mousehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06128283343279442537noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21988256.post-59611229514333860092008-06-30T16:53:00.000+10:002008-06-30T16:53:00.000+10:00We had one in our mothers group who was super-comp...We had one in our mothers group who was super-competitive and super-pushy. I think the rest of us were a little too laid back for her, and she gave up coming along. I ran into her a few years later, when the kids were about 4, and the first thing she asked me was whether Queenie was reading yet. ARGgghhhhhhh!<BR/><BR/>There's always one.Fairlie - www.feetonforeignlands.comhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00145612102935177016noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21988256.post-66117199761231517202008-06-30T16:27:00.000+10:002008-06-30T16:27:00.000+10:00The woman sounds like a pain in the arse.Diss her ...The woman sounds like a pain in the arse.<BR/>Diss her before the kinder year starts so everyone else knows in advance what a pain in the arse she is too.<BR/>Serves her right. My kids live on baked beans and seem to be okay.<BR/>As for Mum seeing my own grown up bits, she used to go a bit pale when I'd breastfeed so I don't think there would have been much chance of her being down at the goal end during child birth.Staceyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00090958027924599852noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21988256.post-28423944919387943512008-06-30T16:04:00.000+10:002008-06-30T16:04:00.000+10:00Ah, if she starts with any competitive crap look a...Ah, if she starts with any competitive crap look at her with a sympathetic smile and say "yes but is she really <I>happy</I>? Even if she asserts in the affirmative, you will have sent her home with equivalent anxieties to the ones she gives you.Stomper Girlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04038937073264645029noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21988256.post-60127674208934239312008-06-30T15:28:00.000+10:002008-06-30T15:28:00.000+10:00I am sure there is always a mother that seems to l...I am sure there is always a mother that seems to live just for her child outdoing everyone else's. You already have two gorgeous boys which I would be very proud of if I were you. Anyway I am sure she wont get to do any wonderful pirate parties like you did.Suehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02893692345113831018noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21988256.post-83465982805226275242008-06-30T14:26:00.000+10:002008-06-30T14:26:00.000+10:00My two cents worth:Kids need space to grow and dev...My two cents worth:<BR/><BR/>Kids need space to grow and develop at their own pace, and to hang and play with their parents without any pressure on performing. Activities/lessons are good, but I do wonder how many over achieving parents push their kids into all sorts of lessons way to early, and how much exactly do the kids get out of it.<BR/><BR/>The best times Grumbles has are when we just hang out. I quite enjoy those too!Jorthhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11263908192771903161noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21988256.post-82488506152760667132008-06-30T11:56:00.000+10:002008-06-30T11:56:00.000+10:00Bah, you've got nothing to fear. You know your kid...Bah, you've got nothing to fear. You know your kids are fine and enjoying just being kids, and let's face it, "violin mum" sounds boring compared to "talented crafty arty fun mum."Muzbothttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02272902392912562790noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21988256.post-59884070889922397042008-06-30T09:05:00.000+10:002008-06-30T09:05:00.000+10:00I know a man who delivered his own granddaughter f...I know a man who delivered his own granddaughter for his daughter- her choice. Yuk. I can never look at him without feeling repulsed.<BR/>Dont worry about the other mother.<BR/>You do just fine, & your son is very happy. Both of them, I feel!meggiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00061112627819270427noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21988256.post-42240320153828115782008-06-29T20:32:00.000+10:002008-06-29T20:32:00.000+10:00I agree with previous commenters...she sounds like...I agree with previous commenters...she sounds like the exception, not the rule, of mums. <BR/><BR/>People keep telling me the most important thing you can do for your child is to make them feel loved and secure and supported for who they are, and that's going to be my motto. <BR/>Violin lessons and six languages be damned! :)sarahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02897322022631264150noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21988256.post-38314924276478440112008-06-29T20:19:00.000+10:002008-06-29T20:19:00.000+10:00Her only means of self-esteem is having an accompl...Her only means of self-esteem is having an accomplished child.<BR/><BR/>I am currently having looong conversations with a good friend of my daughter. Her mother was the same with her as a young child. She is now 17 and feels she can't stay at home because her mother is making all of her decisions and making her feel bad for even trying to think for herself. <BR/><BR/>I believe that being a pushy parent just drives them away eventually - they look for a place to finally relax.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21988256.post-8441089889338423102008-06-29T19:46:00.000+10:002008-06-29T19:46:00.000+10:00Ye gods. Take comfort from knowing that 99.99% of ...Ye gods. Take comfort from knowing that 99.99% of we mums are just like you ... and not remotely like her. Here's just a snapshot of my own pitfalls to make you feel better: a) when he was younger A Good Night involved my son eating tinned corn ... from the tin. These days it involves him eating cheese on toast. b) any trip in the stroller requires me bribing him with freckles, smarties or whatever else is in the cupboard. c) we're toilet training ... months after everyone else. <BR/>Hope this makes you feel better!!kurrabikidhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05733683295079746421noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21988256.post-66177988695779743842008-06-29T19:35:00.000+10:002008-06-29T19:35:00.000+10:00Yep that would be making my stomach churn a little...Yep that would be making my stomach churn a little.<BR/><BR/>I wonder if I might join you on the picture a day thing. Nah probably not - I find it hard to stop yapping even when I do bore myself!Maryhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08578720378832806483noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21988256.post-85669335706453405552008-06-29T18:03:00.000+10:002008-06-29T18:03:00.000+10:00oh the 'alpha mum' pretty annoying huh?Looking for...oh the 'alpha mum' pretty annoying huh?<BR/>Looking forward to the photos.<BR/>The blog colours are looking good:)Bird Bathhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03918396655766734244noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21988256.post-43672850833413301132008-06-29T17:15:00.000+10:002008-06-29T17:15:00.000+10:00She sounds like a bit of a pain if you ask me, whi...She sounds like a bit of a pain if you ask me, which you didn't, but that's my 2 cents! <BR/><BR/>I can't stand it when other Mum's ask me if Parker is writing her name yet, just because I wonder if they just want to do a quick compare. It takes all my strength not to say 'nope, thick as a brick, no competition there!'<BR/><BR/>Now, bring on the lint!!Claire (ethel loves fred)https://www.blogger.com/profile/15039120555271381576noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21988256.post-39848272400985399582008-06-29T16:47:00.000+10:002008-06-29T16:47:00.000+10:00You couldn't have paid me to have my mum at the bi...You couldn't have paid me to have my mum at the birth of my kids - I did have lots of students at the first thought!!!Kirstyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05628893711657037244noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21988256.post-23360656587478136282008-06-29T15:11:00.000+10:002008-06-29T15:11:00.000+10:00There is one in every Mother's Group, Playgroup, K...There is one in every Mother's Group, Playgroup, Kindy, School...in fact, I think it never stops.Melodyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05681227038111050561noreply@blogger.com